It’s still kind of hard to believe that my little brother (my ONLY brother and sibling) got married this past Saturday (pictures below). I had the honor of being part of the wedding party and spending a good deal of time with my new sister-in-law, her family and friends, as well as mine. It was a truly wonderful weekend and I am thankful to have been such a big part of their big day.
As part of the ceremony, the officiant talked about an art print that Courtney has hanging in their house that reads “The grass is greener where you water it” (Neil Barringham). Now, something that you should know about me is that my life has been a constant battle between being a calm, level headed person (this goes back to my problem with caring entirely too much what others think of me) and being the kind of person that clings on to all the beautiful clichés in life. Don’t ask me why you can’t have both but my silly brain seems to find these two things contradictory.
This quote reminded me of my love for so many things cliché in the world. One of my very favorite Youtube personalities once said that “The secrets to life are hidden behind the word cliché.” I find this all too true in my own life.
And this leads me to my main, terribly cliché point: the grass IS greener where you water. (This is a self pep talk that if even one other person benefits from, it’ll have been worth putting into words and posting). Stop spending SO much time thinking about how much better your life would be if you got that nicer job title with the nicer salary or thinking about how you can’t wait to get a nicer this or that like someone you know just got. While there’s nothing wrong with having aspirations and dreams, there’s also nothing wrong with your life right now.
Now, I largely blame my mother for all of this. She made me the way I am by instilling in me a deep desire for more; to be more. She wanted better for me than she had (as most parents do) and I am thankful for this. It got me to where I am today and for that, I am grateful. But, I won’t let that same drive constantly convince me that my life isn’t perfect the way it is; that the grass isn’t beautiful right where I’m standing.
When I was in high school I thought that life would be perfect once I got into college. Then, I spent my days dreaming of how amazing college would be. Once I was in college, I couldn’t wait to be finished and applying to grad schools. During my various internships, I dreamed of one day having my bosses job and how wonderful it must be to be a young working adult, out of college. Now, I am that boss and this grass doesn’t seem nearly as green as it looked when I was 19 years old. There’s always something more, but I won’t let myself forget about the *more* that I already have *today*.
Everyday I find out something new about myself. Sometimes good and sometimes bad. But, it’s me and I love that. So, here’s to getting off the ladder (ahem, getting off facebook) and no longer checking out what the neighbors grass looks like. Here’s to watering my own life with clichés, happiness, and all the good and bad that comes with it.
And because I can’t resist, here’s a picture from Saturday. So excited for these two :)
And one my mom took on her iPhone: